Negative self-talk is a trap that many of us can fall into. They’re the niggling comments that creep into our minds when we start to doubt ourselves, or get caught in a shame spiral. And over time they can rub away at our self-esteem, holding us back from achieving our goals and from living a happy and fulfilling life.
Often coming hand-in-hand with other mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression, getting to the root of the problem may involve reaching out and working with a mental health professional to help you understand this behaviour in more detail.
But, as is so often the case, the first step is to identify that you’re doing it. Pay attention to the way that you speak to yourself – would you speak this way to a friend? If not, challenge the negative self-talk when it arises. Ask yourself, is this actually true, what’s the evidence?
Here, we’re flipping common negative thoughts on their head, to help you stand up to unhelpful self-talk.
Change to: This may not be my strong point, but I have many skills.
Change to: I can’t control what others think, but I know there are people who care deeply about me
Change to: I’m struggling right now, but I am still worthy of love and compassion.
Change to: Doing something bad doesn’t make me a bad person.
Change to: This is difficult, but I can keep trying.
Change to: I’m facing a challenge, and I will try my best – that’s what matters.
Change to: I will get through this – it won’t last forever.
Change to: I made a mistake, but it’s not the end of the world.
When we treat ourselves with the kindness and forgiveness that we deserve, we place ourselves in the best position to take on the obsticles that come our way. So next time you find yourself experiencing negative self-talk, don’t let it get away unchallenged.
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