By William Schroeder, LPC
Being a therapist who works with ADHD and has ADHD, I think it’s important to discuss the thing that rides shotgun for so many people with ADHD, shame. I can identify with this all too well. So let me give you a shortlist of a few highlights:
The list above describes a few of my greatest hits of the things that my inattentive ADHD has caused. It’s part of the way my brain works differently, and truth be told, it’s been a process to accept those differences, and it’s a challenge to honestly do so. For many years, the shame associated with the list above felt like wearing clothing with a lead lining, and each failure added another layer. Any reminder about the above would cause a reflexive response that was automatically negative. How can you not feel bad about the things you don’t mean to do but are somewhat predisposed to have trouble with?
Am I completely better now? No, I am still a work in progress. A point of progress is most of the mistakes I have made, I have learned from and not had happen again. I can also say I have lot of things that I can safely laugh about now without feel the weight of shame.
Having ADHD has made me a better therapist and employer as I can look at problems as bugs in the software that may need some tweaks to the code to get to work right. I should also say there are many things that my ADHD makes me good at. I can switch gears quickly and juggle many tasks without burning out. I like the variety and can single focus on my particular interest areas and learn them better than most people that do them as a day job. Task prioritization is challenging for me, and I do best when paired with someone who is a proficient planner. A point of pride for me in my mid 40’s now is that my wife and I have a company that now employs over 40 people and one of the things that has helped us grow has been our different skill sets. If you are struggling, know that things can improve and it may take some time to unlock your potential to its fullest be patient and seek out support if you need it.
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