In this way, couples therapy can become a safer space to talk about areas of conflict between the two individuals.
Couples counselling can offer time to consider people’s own history of relationships in their families and the expectations that they bring to their current relationship. This can help to understand why the current situation feels so challenging and can help ease some of the pressures felt.
It can also be a huge relief to understand that some of what is being experienced is also being experienced by other couples and that it is normal. By taking the time to talk about these things and feel that they are heard, couples can feel more understood by each other which can help to reduce conflict. Research shows that conflict that is frequent, intense and unresolved is harmful to children and, therefore, by helping couples manage the conflict between them, not only does it support the parents’ mental health but also that of their children.
Our overall assessment of outcomes at Tavistock Relationships suggests that clients who come for couples therapy show “significant increases in their relationship satisfaction and distinct decreases in their psychological distress as the therapy progresses”.
We work with couples at different stages of their relationships. Some are dealing with transitions (such as Sami and Des), where it seems the transition to parenthood has stirred up some difficulties for them. Some are dealing with a specific life event that is feeling difficult to manage within their relationship. Some people feel they don’t have a specific problem but are bored of having the same arguments and would like to deal with their disagreements better.
It can take a bit of time to settle into the therapy and it isn’t for everyone. But, where a couple can make use of it, it can be a space that helps them feel more connected and more able to enjoy their relationship.
In the following video, counsellors Lee Valls and Beverley Hills explain what you can expect when you walk into therapy with your partner:
You can find more information about couples counselling and find a couples therapist on our website.
Or, if you’d like to know more about Tavistock Relationships, you can book a consultation to see if couples therapy could benefit you.
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